Childlessness May Strengthen a Couple´s Relationship
Involuntary infertility affects both partners in a relationship. It is not always a major crisis, yet it always leaves its mark. The relationship is cast in a new light, and the partners must review their relationship with each other as well as their own identity and sexuality.
Fortunately, the changes in the partnership brought about by involuntary infertility are often positive. The crisis may strengthen the relationship and bring the partners closer together. It is important for the partners to pay attention to one another’s mental well-being as well as their own during infertility examinations and treatments.
For many couples, the decision to seek medical help for infertility, the planning of treatment, and the prolonged treatments are difficult experiences. The decision to use donated eggs or sperm is particularly difficult, as is facing the end of treatments without success.
It is important that the clinic’s staff can deal with the questions, emotions, and mental stress that arise from examinations and treatments, with an understanding of the unique situation of each couple.
The need for psychological support differs significantly according to each couple or individual. For some, medical treatment and the support of the family and friends are sufficient. For others, involuntary infertility is a very private matter that is not easy to discuss even with their closest friends. We take account of the special needs of each couple seeking infertility treatment and provide guidance and support during both examinations and treatments.
We Listen and Offer Guidance
Our nurses have received training in counseling, which involves listening to patients’ concerns and fears and supporting them during and after treatment. The aim is to help patients move on during the treatment process. The need for counseling depends on the individual. For some, one visit is sufficient, for others, regular visits are a part of the process helping them move on.
Sometimes the help we provide is not enough, in which case professional support may help the couple or individual to deal with the emotions and issues arising from involuntary infertility. Details of a psychologist or psychiatrist familiar with involuntary infertility can be obtained from the clinic.
Even after successful infertility treatment, a couple may feel not only joy and happiness but also uncertainty and fear. The woman monitors her pregnancy particularly carefully, and fears of miscarriage or loss of the child may overshadow the joy of being pregnant.
It may be difficult for the partners to share any moments of doubt or negative thoughts with anyone. However, it is important to remember that all expectant mothers and fathers have conflicting emotions. Becoming a mother or a father and the expectations associated with these roles raise questions for every couple. It is advisable to talk about your feelings and to remember that they are a normal part of the process of becoming a parent.